Ambition,  In my opinion


I am constantly in awe of people who can truly offer forgiveness.

Whenever I see for example, people on TV who have been the victims of some horrific crime announce that ‘they forgive their abuser’ I am stunned.

First of all, I have to admit my suspicions are aroused. I think, ‘I don’t believe this. This has to be staged for the cameras. No-one could forgive such a horrific crime’.

It doesn’t take me long to realise that in most cases they mean what they have said, and they do, truly forgive the perpetrator of the crime against them…and then I feel guilty…and small…and ashamed.

When the hatred is dispelled, forgiveness follows.

The trouble is… I’m not sure I can do what the ‘Forgivers ‘ do. I’m not sure I can forgive, I mean well and truly, really forgive.

It’s hard enough driving the self-destructive hatred from my mind. And, even if that proves successful and I’m left with an empty space in my head where the hated used to be, have I truly forgiven, or have I just ‘forgotten’?

There is a difference between truly forgiving and just ‘forgetting’. And by forgetting, I mean, putting something ‘away’ in a room hidden in the deep dark recesses of your mind. That is not forgiving and it’s not even really ‘forgetting’. That’s moving something to one side in the hope that it will go away of its own accord.

Forgiving, true forgiving is wiping the slate clean. It’s about seeing the perpetrator of the crim against you as a fully functioning human being, willing and able to change. A person who can grow and turn his/her back on past sins. A person able to grow and improve and become better.

And of course, this has to apply to ‘The Forgiver’ too.

As far as a scenario or an imagination, a visualisation that might aid forgiveness, at the moment I don’t have one. The nearest I can come is ‘The Red Flag’ where the work is done in the dispelling of the hated one.

To truly, utterly forgive I think requires a lot of time alone with the image of the perpetrator. A sort of mental cleansing of your view of those who have wronged you. A deep belief in their potential. Only then, have you really ‘Forgiven’.

I’m working on it.

Agree or disagree I look forward to your comments

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